Confession of a Good Man

Most women are always embarrassed to ask their man for money or for something they need, always embarrassed. They would rather soak up their challenges secretly or look for help elsewhere than going to him to ask for some help, even when she knows that he has the capacity to handle it, they don't just feel right about it, especially for women with an independently 'I should take care of myself' mentality. And the problem is not a lack of courage or pride, the challenge is that they feel responsible for themselves and more than anything else they hate that you might feel buggy.

The closest thing they try to do is get help somewhere else, even when those alternative sources are the most unlikely to be responsive she will still prefer to take that chance than ask you for anything.

She expects you to figure out that something is not right. She just expects you to read her body language and her moods. She expects you to read the words in her silence, but when you ask her 'how are you?' The next thing that follows is 'have you eaten?', and that's all, you don't go beyond that point.

Get this guy, as a man, there is just no way you can be comfortable that your partner is not asking you for anything, there is just no way you can be at peace with yourself, it should itch your soul. You are working and earning a salary but for 3 months you have not bought her anything, it's bad honestly, even if your budget is tight, even if you are saving to buy world bank, 2months is enough to stop by the store and get her a nice pair of jeans or some tops, a fancy hair ribbon won't put your savings in recession, it just the little things we do.

Most of us are just relaxed over the fact that she works and can take care of herself, yes she can, but even as the director of the central bank she is also a woman, and as a woman, she has needs that only a man can satisfy.

Don't wait for her to come asking you for little things, just as grown women always feel embarrassed to ask, grown men also feel embarrassed when their woman come asking for money and some common things they need, they just use their common sense to know that he is responsible for someone according to his capacity. Grown men ask what she needs, they don't wait to be asked. If this is you, uncle, please start using your common sense, start by showing concern with questions like;

"Baby, I have a free budget for April, is there anything you need that you want me to make a budget for?"

"Love, I know you need money for your project, I will cover your tithe for this month so you can add that 10% to what you have saved up, alright?"

"Bae, I told your friend that makes female shoes to make one for you, I paid already, just let her the design you like."

Or sometimes just send her some cash and ask her to keep it for you, we both know she understands what you're trying to do.

These little things are the foundation blocks of a relationship and marriage. Most brothers don't even have the account details of their partner, and they have been doing relationship for over a year. Some cannot remember the last time they bought airtime credit for their partner, it's that bad. Love is not free, the price is responsibility.


By Allison