Sexual Purity

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For the past two weeks God has been directing me on purity and i could not ignore his promptings  to pray for unmarried young men and women, to stay pure despite pressures from the world to fornicate which is OK! as per the worldly standards. I know someone reading this post will be like, even in church today, singles are sleeping around what difference does it make? Let me roll up my sleeves and pen down this post out of love I have for the body of Christ and my reverence I have for God. Most people have all manner of reasons to have sex outside the context of marriage, reasons which are all fueled by the flesh. Am not hear to judge or condemn anyone, am just a vessel to pen down with love the desire God has for us, to pursue purity as singles, trusting Him to walk down the aisle while still honoring our partners and Him at the same time.

So, what is sexual purity??? It is the active choice to refrain from sexual activity outside the bonds of marriage. It is the decision to guard your heart and mind by not allowing impure thoughts or attitudes take over. It is having faith that we are worthy of more than short-term pleasures, and that there is something better planned for our lives. To be pure doesn’t mean that suddenly those desires will disappear. Instead we must have an active part in choosing to remain pure. It means we have to realize that there are more important things than fulfilling desires for a short-term gain. What if you suffered from a past of sexual impurity? Does this mean that you are a lost cause? Certainly not, you have a choice. You can choose today to remain pure until marriage. It’s never too late.

In this day and age, singles advocating for standards to court, to stay pure, to walk down the aisle and have sex on their honey moon night, is kinda old school and is deemed as being over spiritual to some people. I know how it feels to be rejected and ridiculed by someone you thought was Mr.Right, who was ok! On having sex before marriage, while all along you desired to walk in purity but the other party was not willing to walk that path .One thing we all need to know is, there is no greater sin than sexual sin. Sexual sin is against your own body it will harden your heart against God, it will draw you away from God because of guilt, you will lose confidence in God because your heart is polluted .Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18.

Don’t be deceived that being born –again gives you a ticket to watch whatever your flesh is urging you to watch ,you can read any book or magazine, you can hang out with your boyfriend/girlfriend  in places that will compromise your witness or you can listen to any music with a notion you can’t be tempted. If King David who was a man after God’s heart was tempted by Bathsheba, what makes you think you won’t be tempted by exposing your mind to all sorts of temptations? Paul was very clear when he said in 1 Corinthians 6:18 RUN!!! because if you won’t switch off that tv channel with sexually explicit language or images, if you won’t avoid hanging out with your girlfriend or boyfriend in places that will compromise your witness, if you won’t get too close to that unmarried man/woman yet you are married, if you won’t cut off a relationship that is tempting you to compromise your purity, you will definitely fall. Sexual sin will always take you farther than you want to go, it will keep you longer than you want to stay and it will cost you more than you are willing to pay.The enemy wants you to think that you are the only one being tempted,he wants you to think you can’t win against that temptation but the truth is, by the the grace of God , you can and will conquer that temptation .

Whoever has to go since you desire to pursue a relationship that will honor God, let them go!!!A wedding ring will not solve a lustful spirit and a lustful spirit is a dangerous giant against your own soul.


I once heard a born-again Christian struggling with sexual sin saying that God does forgive but my question directed to that person was, when you deliberately sin knowing for sure it’s wrong, are you sincerely repentant? To anyone who is struggling with sexual sin listen, whenever you sin consciously and expect God’s forgiveness and mercies you are actually walking in deception:-

🗝First, you are yielding to the desires of your flesh and not the power of God to flee away from temptations.

🗝Second, you lose your power as a believer by yielding to selfish desires of your own flesh.

🗝Third, you are not truly repentant. God’s forgiveness is based on true repentance Acts 26:20 but declared first to those in Damascus and in Jerusalem, and throughout all the region of Judea, and then to the Gentiles, that they should repent, turn to God, and do works befitting repentance.So when you are faced with consequences of sexual sin like premarital pregnancies, shame or sexually transmitted diseases don’t think God is not aware, He does allow that to happen. However, when you turn away from sexual sin after true repentance and when faced with such temptations again you are able by the grace of God to turn away, then and only then despite of going through shame, having a premarital pregnancy or contracting a sexually transmitted disease ,God turns them around for His glory. You learn from your past mistakes and you help others struggling with such struggles.

🗝Fourth,you open a door of your soul to soul ties.You can’t embrace the new while you are still married to the old.

🗝Fifth, No matter which position you hold in church, which ministry you are committed to serve God and His people, working for Him does not equate to your purity. First and fore most present your body as a living sacrifice which is your spiritual worship Romans 12:1 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

Stay pure as a single woman/man for God’s glory and for your own good. The world will suggest to you, everyone is fornicating before marriage and you are crazy for having absurd standards. Listen!!Those are not absurd standards, they are God’s standards. Love God to the point you are not moved by being different in a world that thinks you are being spooky for honoring God with your body.Don’t contaminate your anointing by having double standards. If you are in a relationship that is not honoring God today, this is the right time for you to cut it off and trust God to heal your broken heart, to make you whole and with time to connect you with your spouse who will not lead you to themselves but will draw you closer to God.It’s never in vain to walk in purity and whatever you wait for, you will always value it.

Be in a relationship which is after purpose not a relationship fueled by lust. .
Here are some rewards of saving sex until marriage.

Sexual purity during courtship paves way to true intimacy

It’s risk free-no premarital pregnancies

Sex is worth waiting for-When you wait for something you will always value it.

Sexual purity will save you from guilt

Sexual purity will save you from unnecessary emotional baggage

Sexual purity will save you from sexually transmitted diseases as a single person.

you will cultivate positive relationships when you are in the same page with someone who agrees with sexual purity.

Sexual purity gives you a positive self-image of who you really are

It helps you to have positive values

You have a pure conscience before God

You have a pure vision for God’s will over your life.

You have pure motive initiated by God while courting.

Sexual purity helps you to have a pure relationship with God

It increases self-respect

It encourages commitment

Sexual purity isn’t about never having sex. It’s about waiting to have the safest and best sex! Postponing sex until you are in a life-long relationship which is marriage can make you risk free, worry free and help you find true love and closeness.

Prayer:-

Dear Lord I thank you so much for enabling me to pen this post that you placed such a burden in my heart to pen down. How I pray you will set anyone free struggling with sexual sin, their minds will be renewed, you will reveal to them the importance and benefits of sexual purity as per your word and will. How I pray, as singles we will pursue purity while dating and you will honor our marriages which will be purely after purpose.I thank you for lives that will be convicted and set free from this post, I thank you for young men and women who will make up their minds to pursue sexual purity and honor you. In the name of the Father,the Son and the Holy Spirit Amen.

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