How to Stop Porn Addiction

Don't be judgmental. The first thing you should do when trying to help other people stay away from porn is to stop being judgmental. Do not see or portray the situation in a way that makes them bad for what they do. Sexuality is very normal and human. Even most religions teach that it is not anyone’s place to judge their fellow man (but is instead the job of the Creator). It’s also bad to judge people because it tends to turn them off from what you’re trying to do. Many people that might be open to change will become defensive if you judge them and become even more set in their ways.


Stay calm when you talk to them and avoid any judgmental language like “Why can’t you be more like Davis?” or “Watching pornography will turn you into a pedophile!”. Don’t make assumptions about how they think or compare them to other people, since language like this tends to shut people down.


Look for spiritual guidance. If you’re really having trouble getting your habit under control, you should consider seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor. While religion can’t help everyone with this problem, it does help some people and shouldn’t be dismissed. Do whatever works for you and don’t worry about what other people say.

Go to the local place of worship for whatever religion you believe in and ask to talk to a priest, imam, or rabbi. You might need to set up an appointment but someone should be available to talk to you.

You must not blame others – “If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” … “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your actions..

Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. Everybody needs a “safe” person to share their struggles with. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. – James 5:16

You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong. Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. – I John 2:16

Avoid beating yourself up. Because the addiction involves lewd material, you might be tempted to think of yourself as impure, perverted, or morally in the wrong for having ever developed the problem in the first place. However, adding blame and guilt to the mix will only make it more difficult to find the confidence needed to resist temptation and throw yourself into other activities.

Cut off your sources. Remove temptation to watch more often than your goal allows. It can be helpful to limit or cut off your access to the majority of sources of pornography. 

Set your environment straight. There are many things you can do to make sure that your environment is set up such that porn use becomes more difficult and less of a temptation.Start with your computer itself, or your phone if you also watch on that device.

Focus your attention elsewhere. Take up a new habit or hobby to replace the time you spend watching porn. If you let the time you would spend watching porn stay empty, it will be much harder to resist the temptation to watch.Try finding ways to fill the lulls in your life so that you no longer have time for porn. Adopt a hobby you've always wanted to take up, such as an art or team sport. You could also spend your time on self-improvement, whether it's reading, volunteering, or contributing to your life in some other way.

It’s cliche, but you must approach your addiction one day at a time.Look for little victories and rejoice in the progress you’re making. Recovery is a cinch by the inch, but a trial by the mile.

Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity. Therefore putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the Word implanted, which is able to save your souls. – James 1:21

Ask for help from family members. Asking for help can be embarrassing, especially because of the nature of the addiction. But, asking for help really shows that you have the strength and capability of spotting and solving problems in your life. If you want to avoid describing the details of why you need help, ask to be referred to a therapist by saying something vague, like "I haven't been feeling like myself lately" or "I feel disconnected from everyone".

Spend recreational time in a space with your family, rather than alone. Move any computers in your home into family spaces and keep an open door policy for any private rooms where computers will be staying. This open policy will help keep all family members, yourself included, honest and allow them to better control urges and bad habits.

So, for example, move your son’s computer from his bedroom and into a corner of the living room.

Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery. More often than not, God chooses to take us through a learning and growing process, that can be very painful. Victory over addiction should be viewed as a marathon, not a sprint.

Ask your therapist or general physician if your addiction indicates a health issue. In some cases, an addiction to pornography can be the result of a hormone imbalance that ramps up your sex drive. If you feel like your compulsion to use is totally unaffected by all the steps you have taken to recover, you could have an underlying problem that a doctor can help you diagnose.

Acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. – Proverbs 28:13

look into focused peer groups. Many other teens deal with porn addictions, and joining a support group will help you realize that you are not alone. This is especially important since the secrecy involved in porn addiction is one of the elements that keep the problem going strong.A group will help you be accountable for your goals and have a place to share stories, successes, and detailed coping tips.

Evaluate the problem. It’s also important to really understand the problem that you’re having. Sometimes, viewing pornography might not be as bad as you think it is. You should look at your situation from an outsider perspective and really decide if you want to go to really great lengths to control the situation.

• For example, if your son is having trouble with viewing pornography, it might be that this is just a phase. Increased sexual feelings at a young age are normal and pornography might be a safer outlet for releasing those feelings than if he stopped and then went looking for release elsewhere. You might want to just let him be, but at least offer him some advice about why pornography can give you bad ideas about sex and why it’s important not to let it control your life.
• If you’re worried, for example, that you’re just seeing objectionable material through no fault of your own and what that could mean for your religious life, talk to your spiritual adviser. Many religions teach that transgressions which are out of our control are not our fault.

Slowly decrease use over time. Make goals for certain periods of time based on whether you want to stop watching altogether or become a more moderate viewer.Doing this will help the transition happen more smoothly, as you will only have to take on small behavioral challenges at a comfortable pace.

• For example, say your goal is to watch only 3 times per week. You could begin by cutting your use down to once a day at the times when you most want to watch, like before going to sleep.

Reconnect with friends and peers. A great way to make sure that you stay engaged in new hobbies and activities is to do them with friends or people you like being around. This way you will be held socially accountable for sticking with the activity--not to mention the opportunity to bond with others over new things. When you are well connected to people who feed you, porn will become less of a pull and you'll remember that there are other fulfilling ways to spend time.

Replace the bad habit with a good one. For most people that look at a lot of porn, the impulse is simply a habit. One of the best ways to overcome a bad habit is to replace it with a good habit; you need to give yourself something else to do when you would normally be looking at porn. What that is will depend on who you are, but you can try:

• Exercising. When you reach the time of day when you would normally start looking at porn, go out and get some exercise instead. Go for a jog around your block or do some jumping jacks. You can even do some more involved but fun exercises, like going swimming at your local pool.
• Cleaning your home. You’ll probably know the basic things to clean (dishes, laundry, etc) but don’t forget about all the cleaning that a lot of people forget about, like cleaning around the toilet and scrubbing the bathtub..

You must learn to flee temptation. Self-deception may enter when you think you can play with fire without getting burned. Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not proceed in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not pass by it. Turn away from it and pass on. – Proverbs 4:14,15

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